It’s a book about bad dates, good friends and – above all else – about recognising that you and you alone are enough.
If you read The Verge of 21, you know that one of my goals is to read more books for fun. My IR readings and essays basically take over my life during the semester so I rarely have time to read anything else. Now that spring break has finally arrived, I’ve given myself a break from my work, a decision that I will probably regret later. After a few days of lounging on the beach, I’ve finished reading one of the books I got for my birthday. Dolly Alderton’s Everything I Know About Love is phenomenal. Alderton’s memoir is refreshingly honest and extremely relatable. The book tackles issues that just about every twenty-something deals with. From figuring out the awkward teenage years to mastering adulting, Alderton frankly discusses the various stages of her life so far. She doesn’t skip over hard topics and is incredibly open about both her trials and triumphs.I got to laugh, cry, learn, and grow with Alderton. Her wit, humor, and honesty were endearing. By the end, I felt like I knew her.
What I loved most about the book was the importance it placed on friendship. Not going to lie, I was prepared for a book about looking for love in the wrong places and then eventually finding it where you least expected. I was so sure that she would find her Mr. Right at the end and they’d live happily ever after. What I got was so much better. Alderton realized that her love story was about her friendships, not her romances. The girls who had always been there for her were worth more than any guy. More importantly, she learned how to be enough on her own. She stopped looking for love to validate herself and realized that she already had everything that she needed. The last few chapters were particularly moving. I was reminded of the importance of falling in love with myself and my friends instead of chasing relationships that may or may not work out.
I highly recommend this book. If you’re still on the fence, here are some of my favorite quotes. Hopefully, they’ll inspire you to read it for yourself.
- Your imagination has the daily workout of an Olympic athlete when you attend an all-girls school.
- I didn’t fall in love; love fell on me.
- If you ignore the boyfriends of your best friends for long enough they’ll eventually go away. Treat them a bit like how you would the common cold or a mild case of thrush.
- Eleanor loved to tell me that life is shit. She told me every week.
- It takes a village to mend a broken heart.
- A reminder that no matter what we lose, no matter how uncertain and unpredictable life is, some people really do walk next to you forever.
- Maybe you just have an unfillable void. Maybe no man will ever be able to fill it.
- Because I am enough… I am my own universe; a galaxy; a solar system. I am the warm-up act, the main event, and the backing singers.
- Nearly everything I know about love I’ve learned in my long-term friendships with women.
- It is no person’s job to be the sole provider of your happiness.